Proposed Parenting Plan

This is a roadmap to assist parents in dealing with their rights and responsibilities of their children after the divorce

1.     Legal Contact. The responsibility for making major decisions affecting the child(ren)’s welfare including major medical decisions, educational, legal and religious decisions.

a.      legal contact of the child(ren) shall be
      shared legal contact. The parents have the ability to communicate and make joint decisions regarding their child (ren)’s major medical, educational, legal and religious decisions that shall be in their best interest.
      shared legal contact. Most of the time, the parents have the ability to communicate and make joint decisions regarding their child(ren)’s major medical, educational, legal and religious decisions that shall be in their best interest. However, after consultation with each other, if the parents are unable to decide an issue,  Dad  Mom shall make the final decision.
b.      legal contact of the child(ren) shall be with  Dad  Mom. This parent shall keep the other parent advised of the child(ren)’s health status, education, grades, activities, legal and religious matters. This parent shall list the other parent on all forms and registrations as a parent and “emergency contact” person.
2.     Physical Contact.   The responsibility for the physical care and immediate, day-to-day supervision of the child(ren).
a.        Shared Physical Contact: The parents have the ability to communicate and coordinate with each other to provide for their child(ren)’s physical care on a day-to-day basis. The schedule set forth below shall be the shared physical contact schedule for the child(ren).
b.        Primary Physical Contact: the child(ren)’s needs can best be met by primary physical contact being with  Dad  Mom and the child(ren) spending time with  Dad  Mom for visitation as set forth below .
c.     School Calendar
No later than _________ of each year,  Dad  Mom shall obtain the school calendar for the next year and shall mark it with Dad’s time and Mom’s time for the school year, holidays and summer under this plan and give a copy to the other parent. The parents shall discuss any differences by _________   and the parents shall reach an agreement or use the dispute provisions of this plan by _________    This is the calendar that will be in effect for the following year.
3.     Conflicts in Scheduling.
       Sometimes “holiday time” may conflict with time set aside for the other parent. When this happens, the holiday time shall be observed over all other schedules. For example, if it is Mom’s alternate weekend, but Father’s Day weekend, Mom shall lose her weekend.
4.     Parents Living in Same Community – Contact Schedule.
a.     Parents Living in Same Community: Regular Schedule – Infants to Age 3 (or Older).
         The child(ren) shall be with  Dad  Mom at the times listed below and with the other parent at all other times.
         Tu/Thurs Eve and Sat overnight
Tuesday 4pm-7pm
Thursday 4pm-7pm
Saturday 10am-Sunday 10am
         Tu/Thurs Eve and Sat overnight
Tuesday 5pm-7:30pm
Thursday 5pm-7:30pm
Saturday 10am-Sunday 10am
         Wed overnight/Sat overnight
Wed 5pm-Thursday 9am
Sat 12noon-Sun 6pm
         Wed/Fri eve and Sat overnight
Wed 5pm-7:30pm
Fri 5pm-7:30pm
Sat 5pm-Sun 6pm
         Wed eve/Sun daytime
Wed 5pm-7:30pm
Sun 1pm-4pm
         Supervised visits
Supervised visits                                     times per week.
The supervisor shall be                                             (person/agency)
The times shall be:                                                                                 
         Future:
         This contact schedule shall remain the same as the child(ren) get older unless the parents agree to modify it or a court modifies the contact.
         The contact schedule below shall apply when the child(ren) are older. The contact schedule shall change at the following time:                                                         
         If one of the parents moves, the contact schedule in the “Different Communities” part of this plan shall apply unless the parents agree differently or a court order modifies the contact.
b.     Parents Living in Same Community: Regular Schedule – At Least Age 3 thru School Age.
         Primary physical contact. The child(ren) shall be with  Dad  Mom at the times listed below and with the other parent at all other times.
         If the court has ordered a weekend plan below, then any “no school” days, such as teacher in-service days, go to the parent with that weekend.
 Alternate weekends:
         Alternate weekends of Friday 6pm to Monday am/school.
         Alternate weekends Friday 6pm to Sunday 6pm.
         Alternate weekends Saturday 10am to Sunday 6pm.
         Alternate weekends from:                                                                                  
Three full weekends a month:
            (“Full weekend” means a weekend with a Saturday and Sunday in that month.)
                     First three full weekends of every month from Friday 6pm to Monday am/school.
                     First three full weekends of every month from Friday 6pm to Sunday 6pm.
                     First three full weekends of every month from Saturday 10am to Sunday 6pm.
                     First three full weekends of every month from:                                                    
Every weekend:
         Every weekend from Friday 6pm to Monday am/school.
                                 Every weekend from Friday 6pm to Sunday 6pm.
                                 Every weekend from Saturday 10am to Sunday 6pm.
         Every weekend from:                                                                                        
Alternate weekends plus weeknight:
         Alternate weekends from Friday 6pm – Monday am/school plus every Wednesday 6pm – 8pm.
         Alternate weekends from Friday 6pm – Sunday 6pm plus every Wednesday 6pm – 8pm.
         Alternate weekends from Saturday 10am to Sunday 6pm plus every Wednesday 6pm – 8pm.
         Alternate weekends from:                                 plus every                                  
Day visits only:
         Every Saturday from 10am to 6pm.
         Every Sunday from 10am to 6pm.
                                 Every                                         (day) from                (time) to               (time).
                                 Other:
 Shared physical contact. The child(ren) shall be with Dad and Mom at the times listed below.
                        Split every week:
 Dad  Mom from Saturday at 6pm to Wednesday after school and the other parent from Wednesday after school until Saturday 6pm.
 Dad  Mom from Sunday 10am to Wednesday after school and the other parent from Wednesday after school until Sunday 10am.
   Other:
Alternate weeks in each home:
         Alternate weeks in Dad’s home and Mom’s home with exchanges every Friday at 6pm.
                     Alternate weeks in Dad’s home and Mom’s home with exchanges every                             (day) at                         (time).
         Other:
 Alternate two weeks in each home:
                     Alternate two weeks in Dad’s home and Mom’s home with exchanges every Friday at 6pm plus alternate Friday night from 6pm to Saturday noon with other parent.
                     Alternate two weeks in Dad’s home and Mom’s home with exchanges every Friday at 6pm plus alternate Friday night from 6pm to 10pm with other parent.
         Alternate two weeks in Dad’s home and Mom’s home with exchanges every                                         (day) at                      (time) plus alternate                       (day) from                    (time) to                           with other parent.
c.     Parents Living in Same Community: Summer Schedule – At Least Age 3 thru School Age.
Same schedule as school year:
         The same schedule shall continue through the summer.
         The same schedule shall continue through the summer except that either parent may travel with the child(ren) for up to 15 days 21 days for a vacation with notice to the other parent at least 30 days in advance and a schedule, location and telephone numbers provided at least 10 days before travel.
Opposite schedule as school:
         The summer schedule shall be the exact opposite of the school year schedule for Dad’s time and Mom’s time.
         The summer schedule shall be the exact opposite of the school year schedule for Dad’s time and Mom’s time except that either parent may travel with the child(ren) for up to 15 days for a vacation with notice to the other parent at least 30 days in advance and a schedule, location and telephone numbers provided at least 10 days before travel.
Divided summer:
 Dad  Mom shall have the child(ren) from one week after school is out until July 15th and  Dad  Mom shall have the child(ren) from July 15th until one week before school starts. The other parent shall have reasonable visits arranged between the parents during the summer.
 Dad  Mom shall have the child(ren) from the time school is out until                     
      (date) and  Dad  Mom shall have the child(ren) from                                     (date) until school starts. The other parent shall have reasonable visits arranged between the parents during the summer.
 Dad  Mom shall have the child(ren) from one week after school is out until                                         (date) and  Dad  Mom shall have the child(ren) from                          (date) until one week before school starts. The other parent shall have the child(ren) every week from Wednesday night at 6pm to Thursday morning.
d.     Parents Living in Same Community: Other Holidays.
                     Mother’s Day/Father’s Day:
         If the child(ren) are not already with the mother/father on this day, then the mother/father shall be entitled to have the child(ren) for up to 6 hours. The mother/father shall give notice to the other parent of the schedule at least two days in advance.
         Easter Sunday:              defined as 10am to 6pm on Easter Sunday.
                                             defined as 6 pm the Saturday before Easter Sunday to                  .m the Monday after Easter Sunday
             whichever parent the child(ren) are with that year under the regular schedule shall have Easter Sunday with the child(ren).
                         Dad  Mom shall have Easter Sunday every year.
 Dad  Mom shall have Easter Sunday in even years and  Dad  Mom shall have Easter Sunday in odd years.
                    Passover:            defined as 6pm to 8pm.
 Dad  Mom shall have the  first night  second night every year.
 Dad  Mom shall have the  first night  second night every year.
   Other:
                     Hanukkah:   defined as 6pm to 8pm.
 Dad  Mom shall have nights: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
 Dad  Mom shall have nights: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
                     Yom Kippur and Rosh Hashanah                                                                                      
                     July Break:                 defined as 6pm last day of school to 6pm the day before school starts (Sunday).
                                                           defined as                                                                                
                           whichever parent the child(ren) are with that year under the regular schedule shall have those days of July Break with the child(ren).
 Dad  Mom shall have July Break every year.
 Dad  Mom shall have July Break in even years and  Dad  Mom shall have July Break in odd years.
 Travel during July Break: The above schedule for July Break shall apply unless a parent has elected to travel with the child(ren) under the schedule provided below.
               Either parent may travel with the child(ren) during their time under the above schedule.
             Dad  Mom may travel with the child(ren) for the entire July Break in even years.  Dad  Mom may travel for the entire July Break in odd years and shall give at least 30 days notice to the other parent and a schedule, location and phone numbers at least 10 days before travel.
e.        Parents Living in Same Community: Birthdays.
Dad’s Birthday is:                                               (Month and Day)
Mom’s Birthday is:                                              (Month and Day)
Parent’s Birthday:
         When it is Dad’s or Mom’s birthday, the birthday parent shall have their celebration during their regularly scheduled time with the child(ren).
         When it is Dad’s or Mom’s birthday, the birthday parent shall be entitled to have the child(ren) for up to six hours for a celebration on the birthday and shall give notice to the other parent of their plan to exercise this option at least three days in advance. This visitation shall not interfere with a child’s schooling or regularly scheduled activity.
Child(ren)’s Birthday:
         When it is a child’s birthday each parent shall hold their celebration during their regularly scheduled time with the child.
         When it is a child’s birthday, Dad shall hold a celebration during even years and Mom shall hold a celebration during odd years.
         The parents shall hold a joint birthday celebration every year with Dad organizing it during even years and Mom organizing it during odd years.
5.        Parents Living in Same Community: Transportation and Exchanges of Child(ren).
a.           Transportation.
                           The parent receiving the child(ren) shall transport the child(ren).
 Dad  Mom shall provide all the transportation between parents.
b.           Exchanges.
         Exchanges shall be at mother’s and father’s homes unless the parents agree to another place.
         Exchanges shall be at                                                                 unless the parents agree to another place.
         Exchanges shall occur on time. Each parent shall be on time for the drop off and pick up of the child(ren) and shall have the child(ren) ready. If a parent is more than 15 minutes late without contacting the other parent to make other arrangements, the parent with the child(ren) may proceed with other plans and activities for the child(ren).
         Exchanges shall occur on time. Each parent shall be on time for the drop off and pick up of the child(ren) and shall have the child(ren) ready. If a parent is more than                   late without contacting the other parent to make other arrangements, the parent with the child(ren) may proceed with other plans and activities for the child(ren).
6.           Move by Parent – Notice and Future Schedule.
         Each parent shall give at least 120 days notice to the other parent of any intent to move if possible and if not possible as much notice as is possible.
         Each parent shall give at least                 days notice to the other parent of any intent to move if possible and if not possible as much notice as is possible.
         When one parent moves, the “Different Communities” part of this plan shall apply until the parents reach a modified parenting plan by agreement or the court decides a modification after one of the parents has filed a Motion to Modify Contact. This shall be considered to be “temporary contact and visitation” and either parent will be free file a motion with the court because of the move arguing that there has been a substantial change in circumstances that requires a modficiation in the child(ren)’s best interest.
         The child(ren) shall remain with the non-moving parent and the children shall have visitation with the moving parent as provided in the “Different Communities” part of this plan This shall be considered to be “temporary contact and visitation” and either parent will be free file a motion with the court because of the move arguing that there has been a substantial change in circumstances that requires a modification in the child(ren)’s best interest.
7.           Parents Living in Different Communities – Contact Schedule.
         If the parents have been living in the same community and one parent moves, the child(ren) shall remain with  Dad  Momthe non-moving parent and the following schedule for visits with the moving parent shall apply unless the parents agree differently or the court modifies the contact.
         The parents are or shall soon be living in different communities. The child(ren) shall be with  Dad  Momexcept for the times stated below when our child(ren) shall visit with  Dad  Mom.
a.           Parents Living in Different Communities: Infant to Age 3 (or Older).
   The parties’ infant/toddler shall have the same visitation as is provided in this plan for the siblings in the other part of this plan.
 Dad  Mom  Moving Parent shall travel to the community that the child(ren) are in   times per year, with 30 days notice to the other parent, and shall have daily visits of at least 4 hours and increasing to alternate day overnights. The visiting parent shall provide information as to schedule, location and telephone numbers for each visit.
 Dad  Mom  Moving Parent shall travel to the community that the child(ren) are in           times per year, with 30 days notice to the other parent. After a re-acquaintance, the parent then may take the child(ren) for a trip. The re-acquaintance visits shall be at least two 4-hour visits on different days in a location familiar to the children and in the presence of a third person with whom the children are familiar and comfortable. The child(ren) may then travel for a visit with  Dad Mom  Moving Parent for up to      days. The traveling parent shall provide information as to schedules, locations and telephone numbers for the visit at least ten days in advance.
b.     Parents Living in Different Communities: Summer Visits – At Least Age 3 thru 5 Years (or Older).
   the child(ren), aged 3-5 years, shall have the same visitation set out below for the siblings in the other part of this plan.
 Dad  Mom  Moving Parent
shall have summer visitation
         3 weeks when age 3
         4 weeks when age 4
         5 weeks when age 5
The visit shall not begin until at least one week after school is out and shall end at least one week before school begins. No later than April 1 each year  Dad  Mom   Moving Parent shall notify the other parent of the dates of the summer visit and what the transportation arrangements will be. The parent shall provide information as to schedules, locations and telephone numbers for the visit at least ten days in advance of travel.
   The summer visit shall continue to be 6 weeks every summer.
   Beginning the summer of                   (year), the summer visit shall be as below. 
c.     Parents Living in Different Communities: Summer Visits – At Least Age 6 thru School Age.
 Dad  Mom  Moving Parent shall have summer visitation from one week after school is out until one week before school begins. No later than April 1 each year  Dad  Mom  Moving Parent shall notify the other parent of the dates of the summer visitation and what the transportation arrangements will be. The parent shall provide information as to the schedules, locations and telephone numbers for the visit at least ten days in advance of travel.
 Dad  Mom  Moving Parent shall have summer visitation from one week after school is out until one week before school begins. No later than   each year  Dad  Mom  Moving Parent shall notify the other parent of the dates of the summer visitation and what the transportation arrangements will be. The parent shall provide information as to the schedules, locations and telephone numbers for the visit at least               days in advance of travel.
 Dad  Mom  Moving Parent shall have summer visitation of 8 weeks each summer to begin no earlier than one week after school is out and to end at least one week before school begins. No later than April 1 each year  Dad  Mom   Moving Parent shall notify the other parent of the dates of the summer visitation and what the transportation arrangements will be. The parent shall provide information as to the schedules, locations and telephone numbers for the visit at least ten days in advance of travel.
d.     Parents Living in Different Communities: Failure to Give Notice / Loss of Summer Visit.
         The parent who is entitled to the summer visitation has the duty to notify the other parent of their intention to have the child(ren) for summer visitation by the date provided in the previous paragraph. If the parent has not given notice of the dates they intend to exercise summer visitation, the parent the child(ren) are with may choose the dates.
         The parent who is entitled to the summer visitation has the duty to notify the other parent of their intention to have the child(ren) for summer visitation by the date we agreed to above. If the parent has not given notice of their intention to exercise summer visitation, the parent the child(ren) are with may assume there shall be no summer visit and make other plans with the child(ren) and the non-custodial parent will have given up their right to have visitation with the child(ren) that summer although the parents may later agree to allow the visitation. .
e.     Parents Living in Different Communities: Summer School Break (Christmas).
Definition:            defined as the day school is out until the day before school starts.
                                       defined as:                                                                                                  
One parent every year:
  Dad  Mom shall have all of Summer Break every year.
Parents all of break alternate years:
  Dad  Mom shall have all of Summer Break in  even  odd years.
  Dad  Mom shall have all of Summer Break in  even  odd years.

 

Parents half of break every year:
 Dad  Mom shall have first half of Summer Break in  even  odd years and
 Dad  Mom shall have first half of Summer Break in  even  odd years.
The other parent shall have the second half of Summer Break.
Away parent all of break plus one-half of break alternate years:
         The parent who does not live in the same community with the child(ren) shall have all of Summer Break in  even  odd years and the second half of Summer Break beginning after Christmas Day in the alternate year.
Parent travels:
         The parent who does not live in the same community with the child(ren) shall travel to the child(ren)’s community and shall have time with the child(ren) as follows:                                                            
                                                                                                                                               
f.      Parents Living in Different Communities: July Break.
Definition:                  July break is the school break beginning on the last day of school and ending on the day before school starts again.
                     July break is defined as:                                                                       
 Dad  Mom shall have July Break every year.
 Dad  Mom shall have July Break in  even  odd years and the other parent shall have July Break in  even  odd years.
   The parent who does not live in the same community with the child(ren) shall travel to the child(ren)’s community and shall have time with the child(ren) as follows:                                                                       
g.     Parents Living in Different Communities: Other Holidays.
         If the parent who does not live in the same community as the child(ren) comes to visit, the parent with the child shall arrange reasonable time for the child(ren) to be with the visiting parent. The visiting parent shall provide information as to schedule, location, and telephone number where the child(ren) will be.
         If the parents have the financial ability to pay and travel is reasonable, considering the distance, time, school, and the child(ren)’s age, the custodial parent may agree to visits with the other parent for other holidays not listed above.
h.     Parents Living in Different Communities: Birthdays.
Dad’s Birthday is:                                   (Month and Day)
Mom’s Birthday is:                                  (Month and Day)

 

Parent’s Birthday:
         When it is Dad’s or Mom’s birthday and the child(ren) are not with that parent, the other parent shall assist the child(ren) in telephoning the birthday parent.
Child(ren)’s Birthday:
         When it is our child(ren)’s birthday, the parent the child is not with shall telephone the child at that parent’s own expense and the other parent shall make the child available to talk with the parent on their birthday.
8.     Parents Living in Different Communities: Transportation.
a.     By Car
         When the parents live in different communities where transportation will be by car,  Dad  Mom  Moving Parent  shall provide transportation both ways.
                     When the parents live in different communities where transportation will be by car, the parent receiving the child(ren) shall transport the child(ren).
b.     By Airplane.
         When the parents live in different communities where transportation will be by airplane, they shall assist their child(ren) by considering jet lag, settling in times, and “best option in light of the price” schedules appropriate to the child(ren)’s age and needs.
         When they live in different communities where transportation will be by airplane, the parents shall split the cost of the summer visit each paying half.  Dad  Mom  Moving Parent shall purchase the ticket and the other parent shall reimburse within 30 days. Transportation for other visits shall be paid by the away parent that does not live in the same community as the child(ren).
         When the parents live in different communities where transportation will be by airplane,  Dad Mom  Moving Parent shall purchase all roundtrip tickets for all trips and the other parent shall reimburse half of the cost of the child(ren)’s ticket within 30 days.
         When the parents live in different communities where transportation will be by airplane, the costs of roundtrip tickets shall be paid by each parent as follows:
 Summer                                      Dad  Mom  Moving Parent
 July Break                                    Dad  Mom  Moving Parent
 Summer Break/Christmas             Dad  Mom   Moving Parent
 Other:                                         Dad  Mom   Moving Parent
         If a parent cannot financially pay for transportation, then the other parent has the option of [but is not required to] paying for the transportation for the visit to take place.
         When the parents live in different communities where transportation will be by airplane, the child(ren) may miss school  half-day  1 day  2 days, if they are otherwise doing well in school, in order to accommodate travel arrangements and be with the other parent.
c.     Airplane Escorts.
         The parents shall consult with each other about whether an escort is appropriate for the child(ren) when they are going to be making an airplane trip even after the airline on which they will be traveling no longer requires an escort.
         The custodial parent shall make the decision as to whether an escort is appropriate for the child(ren) when they are going to be making an airplane trip even after the airline on which they will be traveling no longer requires an escort .
         When the parents live in different communities where transportation will be by airplane, the costs of roundtrip tickets for any escorts, including for a parent, shall be split 50/50.
         When the parents live in different communities where transportation will be by airplane, the costs of roundtrip tickets for a parent escort shall be paid by the parent doing the escort.
         When the parents live in different communities where transportation will be by airplane, the costs of roundtrip tickets for a parent escort shall be paid by  Dad  Mom Moving Parent .
9.     Holidays and Travel by Child(ren).
         Either parent may travel with the child(ren) during their contact time.
     The parent traveling with the child(ren) shall give the other parent at least __ days notice before traveling if the travel will be for a period in excess of three days (unless there is an emergency in which case as much notice as possible shall be given), and shall provide the other parent with a schedule, locations and phone numbers at least      days before traveling.
         The child(ren) may travel with others, such as a sports team, church, or school activity, with relatives or similar travel as arranged by the parent the child(ren) are with during that parent’s time.
         If the child(ren) are traveling with others, such as with a sports team, church, or school activity, with relatives or similar travel for more than                     days, the parent that has consented to the travel during their time shall give the information to the other parent in advance of the travel.
10.       Information About Events and Activities.
         When the parents live in the same community each parent shall make a good faith effort to give information to the other parent about events and activities in their child(ren)’s lives like school programs, concerts, award ceremonies, plays, sports events and other things the child(ren) are participating in. Sometimes this information may be at the last minute but this happens with child(ren) and each parent shall make an effort to let the other parent know so that they can attend or talk about it with the child(ren).
          When the parents live in different communities each parent shall make a good faith effort to send the other report cards, school calendars, school pictures, copies of awards or programs from events and activities their child(ren) are involved in.
11.       Parent Traveling.
         If either parent is traveling, they shall let the other parent know in advance where they can be reached in the event of an emergency or if the child(ren) want to contact them.
         If either parent is traveling, they shall leave information with another adult in their home where they can be reached in the event of an emergency or if the child(ren) want to contact them.
12.       Changes or Modification of the Plan.
         The parents can vary this plan for special events, changes in circumstances and to adjust to the child(ren)’s schedule or a parent’s schedule when the parents agree. Either parent may choose to take less time than this plan allows with the child(ren) . However, when the parents do not agree to change something, this plan is in effect. Either of the parents may file a Motion to Modify Child Contact with the court when they believe that there has been a substantial change in circumstances such that it is in the best interest of the child(ren) that the plan be substantially modified by the court.
         Minor changes in the plan, such as travel times or exchange times can be put in a writing, signed by both parents, for clarification and for a record, but are not required to be put in writing and need not be filed with the court.
         Any  change in the plan must be put in writing signed by both parents.
13.       Care of Our Child(ren).
a.           Parent Remarks and Behavior.
         The child(ren) have the right to be free of bad comments and behavior by one parent about the other. The parents shall not badmouth, criticize, roll our eyes, be sarcastic and otherwise be disrespectful of the other parent in the presence of our child(ren) and the parents shall not let others do this.
b.           Child(ren) as Messengers.
         All communications regarding the child(ren) shall be between the parents only and the parents shall not use the child(ren) or anyone else (unless ordered by a court to use a third party as a messenger) to convey information, ask questions or set up contact changes.
         The parents shall keep a notebook that goes back and forth with the child(ren) that gives information about their schedule, problems, eating, sleeping, cute stories, new experiences and other information for the other parent. The parents shall stop using the notebook only when both parents agree it is no longer necessary.
c.           Discipline.
         Either parent may use reasonable discipline techniques, but neither parent shall use physical discipline.
         Either parent may use reasonable discipline techniques, with physical discipline as a last resort.
         Either parent may use reasonable discipline techniques, including physical discipline.
d.           Education.
         Both parents may participate in school conferences, events and activities and may consult with teachers and other school personnel. Each parent may contact the school to receive grades, attendance, calendars, schedules, mailings and notices.
14.       Decision-Making.
a.           Communication Between Parents.
         The parents shall communicate with each other:
         in person
         by telephone
         by letter
         by e-mail
         other:
b.           Day-to-Day Decisions.
         Each parent shall make decisions regarding day-to-day care of each child while the child is residing with that parent. Either parent may make emergency decisions affecting the health and safety of the child(ren) and will advise the other parent of the decision as soon as possible.
c.           Records.
         Both parents shall have full access to school, day care, medical and other records of the child(ren).
         Both parents shall have equal and independent authority to confer with the child(ren)’s school, day care and other programs with regard to the child(ren)’s educational, emotional and social progress.
d.           Braces
         If a dentist or orthodontist recommends braces for a child the parents shall cooperate to provide them.
         If a dentist or orthodontist recommends braces for a child, the custodial parent shall obtain a second opinion and if it also recommends that the child needs braces then the parents shall provide them.
         The parents shall consider braces as any other non-emergency medical decision.
         The custodial parent shall make the decision as to whether a child will be provided with braces if a dentist or orthodontist recommends braces for the child.
15.       Disputes.
         Whenever possible the parents shall discuss the issues and attempt to reach an agreement based on what is best for their child(ren) at that particular time.
         If the parents are unable to reach an agreement on an important issue about their child(ren) after they have discussed it with each other, either parent may initiate dispute resolution by:
         arranging for the parents to meet with a counselor to discuss and try and reach agreement.
         arranging for the parents to meet with a trained mediator to try and reach an agreement.
                                                                     (name) has agreed to be an arbitrator and after each parent presents what they think is best for their child(ren) the arbitrator shall make the final decision.
16.       Contact with the Child(ren) When with the Other Parent.
a.           Telephone. 
         The parents shall each try to maintain answering machines so that the child(ren) can leave and receive the parents’ messages.
         The child(ren) may telephone the other parent whenever they want to.
         The parent the child(ren) are not with shall make an effort to talk at least                times a week  month by calling the child(ren) at reasonable times.
         The parent the child(ren) are not with shall telephone on the following days and times:
         If a message is left from the parent the child(ren) are not with, the other parent shall assist the child(ren) in returning the call.
         Reasonable times to call the child(ren) at the other parent’s home are:
    between 8am and 8pm
    between ___ am and ___ pm
         telephone calls and other communication shall not be monitored by the other parent unless they believe in good faith that the child is having a problem.
b.           Mail.
         The child(ren) shall be given all mail and packages sent by the other parent. If any mail is withheld the other parent shall be informed immediately.
         The child(ren) and the parents may communicate by email when computers are available.
         Either parent may send audio tapes, including story tapes and video tapes to the child(ren).
17.       Re-Involving A Parent.
 Dad  Mom has not had [or if in the future a parent has not had] frequent contact with the child(ren) for approximately                                                                                 , and wishes to begin more actively participating in our child(ren)’s life. To make this transition work for the child(ren):
         Both parents shall seek counseling to assist them in helping the child(ren) with this transition and to receive advice about how to make the transition work.
         The parents shall begin contact with the child(ren) by having the following schedule of contacts:The re-acquaintance visits shall be at least ________ 4-hour visits (on different days) per week in a location familiar  to the children and in the presence of a third person with whom the children are familiar and comfortable.
         After the above schedule of contacts has been kept for                        (time), the parents shall reach an agreement about increasing the time the child(ren) spend with the other parent. If they cannot agree they shall use the dispute resolution portions of this parenting plan to resolve the dispute.
18.       Child Care.
a.     Parents Living in Same Community – First Option Other Parent.
         Each parent shall call the other parent and give them first option to care for the child(ren) when they need childcare.
         Each parent shall call the other parent and give them first option to care for the child(ren) when we need childcare for more than:
 2 hours    4 hours    6 hours    8 hours
b.           Parents Living in Different Communities – First Option Other Parent.
         If the parent who the child(ren) are with will be traveling, is ill, is deployed, is working out of town or otherwise unavailable to personally care for the child(ren) for an extended period, the other parent will be given first option to care for the child(ren) in the child(ren)’s home community or the other parent’s community, depending on what is best for the child(ren) at that time.
c.        Child Care by Other People.
         Each parent is free to choose appropriate child care providers.
         Any child care provider for our child(ren) shall be:
 a licensed child care provider.
 a close relative or friend.
 over the age of                                 .
19.       Grandparents and Extended Family.
         Each parent shall provide the child(ren) with visitation with the grandparents and extended family on their own side of the family as they decide is in the child(ren)’s best interest during their contact time.
         The parents shall cooperate to help the child(ren) attend special events with grandparents and extended family by making reasonable requests of each other, considering the school situation and the child(ren)’s best interest and needs.
 Visitation with Grandparents/Extended family of military member.
During deployment the custodial parent and any other person with physical contact of the child(ren) will allow the following visitation with the Grandparent/ Extended family of the militarymember:
 Alternating weekend visitation if requested by the grandparents or extended family members from after school on Friday until 6pm on Sunday during the school year and during summer
 The child(ren) may also spend up to 14 days  21 days  other ________[specify amount of time] with the grandparents/extended family member if the grandparents/family member provides at least 30 days notice of their intent to exercise the extended visitation. if they intend to travel with the children they must also provide a location, schedule and phone number for the travel at least 3 days before the travel.
                                     Other [state agreement]:
20.       Parents Same Community or Different Communities: Transition Times.
         When the child(ren) has to travel by air or car long distances that the parents shall each reassure them, tell them about the schedule, and use airline services that will help the child(ren).
         The parents shall assist their child(ren) to have comfort items like blankets, stuffed animals, and favorite things with them when they go from one home to the other.
         Each parent shall give the other parent information about the child(ren)’s homework, school projects, appointments and activities that need attention while the child(ren) are with the other parent.
         The parents shall talk to each other about the child(ren)’s sleep and eating schedule, any medications or health matters and their general condition before exchanges.
         When the parents are exchanging the child(ren) they shall not discuss other issues and that they shall not fight, be sarcastic or demonstrate anger during the exchange.

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