Many step families experience problems in adjusting to the new situation but with help these can be resolved. Feelings of failure, resentment and disappointment are common.
Step Families – Beauty or Beast
Source: Family Life
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Marriage and becoming a parent are both major turning points in a person’s life. Although both these events are very exciting when they occur together they can be quite overwhelming. Many step families experience problems in adjusting to the new situation but with help these can be resolved. Feelings of failure, resentment and disappointment are common.
Common beliefs about step families
The marital relationship:
The children’s experience:
The former spouse and his/her family:
Where the couple have not emotionally divorced each other conflict often arises between the former spouse and ex-spouse for the husband/wife’s attention. Even where there has been an emotional divorce the frequent contact between former spouses can produce considerable anxiety in the new spouse.
The new marriage will have to accommodate the fact of the ongoing parenting relationship but without a strong couple unit this is not possible.
The children need to continue their relationships with both parents as well as with their grandparents, aunts and uncles. For the step family to survive the support and approval of these people is invaluable.
This is frequently a source of conflict. The couple need to discuss very thoroughly how the money will be allocated both in terms of budgeting and who is responsible for what in this home, and also how payments will be made as a result of the divorce agreement.
What to do:
The option of counselling
Every period of adjustment comes with its problems and if you would like to talk about these changes, counselling is available. Family Life Centre offers counselling for individuals, couples and families. It is a process which involves mutual acceptance, respect and confidentiality. It entails a series of interviews of approximately one hour each.
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